People Show Us Who They Are: Believe Them!
He rarely calls. He never listens. He’s always late or preoccupied. We always do what he wants. It’s always about him!
Does any of this sound familiar? In current or past relationships? You turn yourself inside out. You talk to your friends about what you’re doing wrong. Perhaps you talk to everyone but him. Or if you do talk to him, he never listens or nothing changes after the promises are made.
What’s a girl to do with this guy? Move on my friend. Don’t walk, run to the nearest exit. You cannot change or control someone who does not seek the growth for himself. Perhaps, simply stated, he’s just not that into you! Thank him for the memories and the lesson in human emotion but move on. We see things that sometimes were never there. They are but figments of our vivid imagination of what a relationship and romance should look like. We cling to a desperate dream of happiness and push back the prospect of loneliness.
Use this end as your beginning. A chance to connect with what you truly want. A chance to embrace things you have always wanted to try. Think of ” our ” end as ” your ” beginning!
To Your Happiness!
oh wow…YES>…been there done that! and as I began to truly love myself and respect myself more, I came to see this pattern clearly in someone I was dating or interested in.
As you mentioned above…..I actually did what you said and thanked “Him” for the growth that occurred in me and moved on. It was the most liberating, self loving thing I had ever done.
Now…I focus on what I want my relationships to look like and I don’t settle for less. I don’t harbor bad feelings when it isn’t so, I simply wish him well, and move on (fast) lol
Thank you for an awesome article!
Well said Regina! It’s a sign of your emotional maturity to realize you shouldn’t settle for less than you deserve. It’s not fair to you or the other person.